No one should be shocked at the recent allegations of sexual harassment in the media and Hollywood. Maybe shocked at those that have been accused, I know I was caught off guard on a few. Then you listen to others in the industry and it seemed that it was well known that the accused were taking inappropriate liberties with others. Interesting. How did we, as a society, get here? It hasn’t been a very long journey. Please keep in mind that these are only my opinions, which have been formed out of my experience as a woman and from experiencing harassment and abuse myself.
When I was an adolescent, and moving into my teenage years, I remember being obsessed with how I looked for school. Did I have the right clothes? The right shoes? How was my hair? I was desperate to get a boyfriend. I wanted all of the tingly romance that I saw in the movies. I wanted the glossy lips and the pretty hair that I saw on the t.v. I wanted attention from the opposite sex. This is normal behavior. It’s normal for girls and boys to want attention from others. It’s how we find a mate. This is simple biology, and necessary for our species to continue. What isn’t so normal is how we have taken attractiveness and perverted it.
Where did this perversion begin? At home.
It starts when we allow our children to see provocative images that portray women being victimized and men being the predators. Or vice versa. These images invade little pliable minds in those early innocent years before children are even aware of what sexuality is. Take a look at this still from a vintage MGM cartoon:
So often women are portrayed as the prey and men the predator. Women are helpless victims that need to be saved, or worse, they fall in love with their captor:
-Belle and the Beast
-Red Riding Hood and the Wolf
The list goes on.
It starts with the music where women sing about being over-taken and men are the over-takers.
The Crystals- 1963